If you have ever been in a public place and your toddler hit their boiling point, you know just how distracting it can be. If the child is your own, it becomes even more embarrassing. However, with the right tools, you can get the tantrums under control before they drive you up a wall.
Consistency is Key
Consistency is the number one rule of child discipline. Children want to test the boundaries of their parent’s guidance.
If you react differently to the same situation, they become confused and react with a temper tantrum. It can be extremely tempting to want to react back or lose your cool. However, for your sanity and their safety and development, it is much better to show them how to react to tough situations.
While it is more difficult at first, the better long-term behavior is the inevitable result. Most parents who insist that they have tried a proven parenting technique and it hasn’t worked for them have neglected to pay attention to consistency.
Most toddler temper tantrums are caused by a specific situation or point between the parent and toddler. Removing your toddler from the environment that is causing the issue can help to de-escalate the tantrum. If you are in the middle of shopping or a social outing, this can be frustrating. However, like all aspects of parenting, discipline is an investment that will pay back dividends later. If you have a huge problem with tantrums, schedule only short outings until you both get the situation better under control. It can also be helpful to anticipate a troublesome situation and eliminate it beforehand.
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How To Effectively Use Timeouts
With so much research indicating that spanking is harmful to your toddler, timeouts have become the discipline method of choice. However, your reaction is the most important pay off that toddler temper tantrums brings to your child.
In other words, take away the pay off! The most effective timeout is given without a lot of dialogue and interaction between parent and child. Explain the rules in a simple, understandable way.
If your child gets out of their timeout spot (which they will!), place them back in firmly, showing as little emotion as possible. After a week or two, they will have the drill down and it will be much easier. After their time has been served, you can give hugs and discuss why the behavior was unacceptable.