At this time they see the most effective way to get what they want is to throw a temper tantrum.
We have all seen what a tantrum looks like, you know screaming, crying, frowning, jumping and the list goes on.
There is an “art” to dealing with the “terrible threes”, which is studied by your toddler at the school of hard knocks!
So believe me when I say they have a Ph.D. in getting what they want!
Some Simple Tips To Help With The Terrible Threes.
When your toddler knows what they want but doesn’t know how to tell you, they get frustrated.The reason is that he lacks the verbal skills to express those feelings.
- Hold your toddler: The toddler cannot communicate his way out of the problem, so being held lets him know that someone is there.
- Identify the trigger points: Does he get cranky during a visit to the market? Be prepared by bringing along a favorite toy or a treat.
- Verbalize your toddler’s feelings: If he or she is upset because you are shopping and won’t buy him or her a toy, put it into words for them..Get down to the toddlers level and say, “you want that ball and you are upset because you can not have it”.
- Distract the tantrum-throwing toddler: Give them a favorite toy. Ask them to color a picture. Take them somewhere else, like the garden, where you can show them the flowers. Any distraction should abate the tantrum.
- Ask them what their feeling: He may have difficulty verbalizing his frustration, but it will teach him to use words rather than tantrums when angry.
- You, the parent, should stay calm: If the toddler is figuring out their emotions, they need you to stay in control of yours. If they throw a tantrum in public, take them to a quiet place. Talk to them calmly.
Parents We Need To Stay COOL……
Be aware! Your child went to the school of hard knocks; they know your trigger points.
A tantrum-throwing toddler does not need a parent with a short fuse. If necessary, get professional help.
Your toddler will throw a fit in an effort to manipulate you.
It’s extremely important that you remain in control of your emotions.
- If possible, ignore the tantrum. Once your toddler realizes who’s in control, your child will stop.
- Call for a timeout. If you’re outside, take the child to the car. At home, have a time out place. This will give the toddler a chance to calm down.
For Those Serious About Taking Control Of The Terrible Threes.
You must seriously want the antidote to the terrible threes.
Well, here it is!
I highly recommend you check out my review of the audio course “Dealing with the Terrible Twos” here. It will teach you everything you need to know to stop those awful temper tantrums for good.
One of the most powerful lessons was helping me recognize that my toddler’s tantrums are actually not because he is bad, or misbehaving.
Your toddler is learning about frustration which is an important skill as he matures into a young child.
In a world where no one always gets what he or she wants, knowing how to deal with frustration is crucial.